ADVICE, TIPS, PLUS...

Below are some actual samples of the effective advice!

If finding that 'special friend'

Is a rare happenstance,

Then why do you insist

That your friends and their spouses

Become close friends with your spouse?

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Sometimes,

They need you

To be sympathetic or understanding,

Instead of analytical or critical.

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Withholding affection

Simply leads to a greater lack

Of loving feelings and actions,

On both of your parts.

So, what is the point

Of doing that?

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You might not

Need their help with a task.

But, the fact that they offer,

Could mean that they need help

Spending time with you.

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If you micro-manage

Most aspects of life,

It is no wonder

That they complain about you,

Try to sabotage things,

Or, withdraw from you.

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Do not confuse

Not agreeing

With not listening.

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Strategically placed

'No's

Work wonders.

Unexpected

'Yes's

Work miracles.

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They did not let you down,

If they tried their best.

So stop punishing them.

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If you only worked

When in the mood,

You would lose your job.

If you only love your spouse

When in the mood,

You will lose them.

Why is that so difficult

For so many people

To understand?

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If you never let them 'lead',

Then, they won't, when you want them to.

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We use positive words

And actions

To get others to do what we want.

So, why do we believe

That our spouses

Will rise-to-the-occasion,

When nagged or criticized?

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Facts

Are not opinions.

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Changing your mind

Can be less

About 'weakness' or 'giving in'

Then it is about

Showing 'smarts' and 'flexibility'.

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Explanations can interfere

With the main point

Being heard.

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I loved her for that she was beautiful...
by Philip James Bailey

I loved her for that she was beautiful;
And that to me she seem'd to be all Nature,
And all varieties of things in one:
Would set at night in clouds of tears, and rise
All light and laughter in the morning; fear
No petty customs nor appearances;
But think what others only dream'd about;
And say what others did but think; and do
What others dared not do: so pure withal
In soul; in heart and act such conscious yet
Such perfect innocence, she made round her
A halo of delight. 'Twas these which won me; --
And that she never school'd within her breast
One thought or feeling, but gave holiday
To all; and that she made all even mine
In the communion of love: and we
Grew like each other, for we loved each other;
She, mild and generous as the air in spring;
And I, like earth all budding out with love.

To My Dear and Loving Husband
by Anne Bradstreet

If ever two were one, then surely we.
If ever man were lov'd by wife, then thee;
If ever wife was happy in a man,
Compare with me ye women if you can.
I prize thy love more then whole Mines of gold,
Or all the riches that the East doth hold.
My love is such that Rivers cannot quench,
Nor ought but love from thee, give recompence.
Thy love is such I can no way repay,
The heavens reward thee manifold I pray.
Then while we live, in love let's so persever,
That when we live no more, we may live ever.